The first requirement for recovery is to be willing to speak from your own heart, from what in English usage is called the “first person, singular” voice or perspective. It is to be willing to think about and talk and/or write about your own experiences, your own life, your own sadness, pain, loss, fear, resentment, as well as your own hopes, dreams, desires, loves, enjoyments. In recovery, you begin to come to yourself–like the lost son did in the parable of the prodigal (Luke 15: 17), you begin to realize that your story of where your were at different seasons of your life, what happened and what your journey has been like is important, even sacred and needs to be heard–especially by you. Your recovery will never start with trying to sort out and fix other people’s thoughts and feelings.
Prayerful thought: Lord, help me to let go of obsessing about other people’s lives–what they’ve done, what they’re doing, or what they might do–and pay attention to the life Thou hast given me to live.